Many of us don’t have the opportunity to handpick our neighbors. We buy or rent a place in a neighborhood with good schools or an easy commute.

Some of us become friends with those who live nearby, others of us never talk to our neighbors at all. For most though, we co-exist.

In the midst of a brutal civil war, neighbors killed their neighbors simply because of who they were.

Thirty years ago this month, that wasn’t the case in Rwanda.

We visit a Rwandan village where how neighbors live alongside one another is deliberate, and complicated.

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(Image credit: Jacques Nkinzingabo)